Wow, had not realized 3 months have gone between my last post!!! I feel like life is screaming by so fast, I barely have time to reflect anymore. (note to self: need to fix this!)
I found this TED talk on Procrastination and I really liked what this guy said:
Ted Talk – Procrastination (worth a watch).
So, I have a confession: I have been lying to myself about procrastination. Yes. I have been lying.
I have been lying because I know a procrastinator who is way worse than me about things. Thanks to being ADHD, I do actually manage to have alot of interesting things going on.
But, these things are not making me so happy anymore. I continue to put alot of effort into my job, but reality is that it’s not actually netting me more money. And that, my dears, is insanity.
So, I watch this TED talk, mostly for the Boyfriend of course, and realize that I was missing a key part of what procrastination is.
I always looked at procrastination as not making any effort at all (he does actually say that in his talk) and then, suddenly you panic.
I don’t actually exist that way. I rarely have panic moments. I do plan out work and accomplish things usually timely. But, what he talked about was procrastination without deadlines. DAMN. That hit a nerve.
I have often recognized within myself that if I don’t have deadlines, I don’t tend to really accomplish anything. Work has deadlines. That makes it easy. Miss deadlines, get fired. Pretty much a no-brainer. Ok, so goody. Now, we have a name for this. Procrastination.
What he didn’t go into was anyway to address it. UGH. He still struggles with procrastination. So, no help there.
But, what do we do? How do we deal with things that don’t have deadlines and drive us from fear of embarrassment or getting fired? Where is the pressure in our personal lives to make these things happen?
I know I feel this way ALL THE FUCKING TIME. Here are my 10 things I want to accomplish in my personal life that has no deadline at all. Oh, I want to do these things today. I can start the other stuff tomorrow. And, in my own defense, sometimes I really do start those things, but maybe in a few months when I have time. I have struggled ALOT with how to force myself to do the things in my life that have no deadlines.
Good news is that I’m far from alone.
Bad news is that I still don’t know how to fix this.
If anyone has some proven techniques, please share!